Surrounded by Narcissists

Narcissists are not always loud, arrogant, or theatrical. They can be subtle: in constant redirection of attention, showing selective empathy that appears only when it serves a purpose, and a need for validation that reshapes every interaction around one central question: “How does this benefit me?”

Again, the four colours matter when it comes to how the narcissist tries to get under their skin:

Reds are often challenged, provoked, or pulled into power struggles.
Yellows are rewarded with attention until their energy is harvested and discarded.
Greens are leaned on emotionally, expected to give endlessly without reciprocity.
Blues are undermined through criticism, shifting standards, and impossible expectations.

The book helps you realise that what you have experienced is not imagination, oversensitivity, or personal failure.

The unresolved question for many readers is this: Why does this behaviour affect me so strongly and why do I keep responding the same way?

This is where the DISC assessment becomes indispensable. It shows:

• which narcissistic tactics you are most likely to tolerate or rationalise
• how your natural strengths can be turned against you
• and how to disengage without escalating conflict or losing your sense of self

Without this self-knowledge, people often adapt too much. The DISC assessment shifts the focus back where it belongs: from managing the narcissist to understanding your own boundaries, needs, and limits.

Read the book to recognise narcissistic patterns.
Then take the DISC assessment to stop accommodating them at your own expense.