‘I’m fine’ – most dangerous sentence in the world

People lie all the time. Especially with their faces.

Most common lies? They’re short, polite, and socially acceptable. Like:

“I’m fine.”

No, they’re not. You know it. I know it. They might even know it.

Someone gives a clipped answer, avoids eye contact, or stares at their coffee like it just insulted their kids — that’s not nothing.

That’s communication. It’s just not verbal. And that’s what makes it honest.

Imagine you’re in a meeting. You all sit there around the conference table.

• One person rambles on (often red).
• One pretends to listen (usually yellow).
• One keeps glancing at the clock (definitely blue).
• And one crosses their arms so hard you can hear it (green + tired = don’t poke).

Words are cheap.
The body doesn’t fake as well.
Which is why most real communication happens in silence — just before someone speaks, or chooses not to.

Quick tip:

Next time you’re in a conversation, skip your ears. Use your eyes.

What’s their face doing when they say they’re fine?

A colourful moment:

After a talk, a man told me he and his wife never fight.
I said: “Really?”
He said: “She goes silent for three days, and then I forget what the problem was.”
I nodded.
Very blue.
Very efficient.
(For him.)

See you next Wednesday.
//Thomas