The sigh is never just a sigh

What that extraordinary loud exhale actually means.

Ever met someone who sighs a lot? Bet you have. Here is something to take to the bank: A sigh is never just a sigh.

It’s compressed communication.

People often sigh when:

• They feel overwhelmed
• They’re disappointed
• They’ve said something five times already
• They want to say something, but can’t
• They want you to notice them without having to actually say anything

Sometimes it’s anger.
Sometimes it’s exhaustion.
Sometimes it’s just their body’s version of ctrl+alt+del.

Quick tip:

Next time someone sighs near you, don’t ignore it. Ask what’s going on.
(Unless it’s your partner. Then… tread carefully. Don’t be stupid.)

A colourful moment:

During a workshop, one guy sighed so loudly during the feedback round that three people turned around.
I asked him if he disagreed.

He said, “No. I just sigh a lot.”
Fair enough. But why? Maybe I should send him this newsletter.

See you next Wednesday.
//Thomas