Yellow wants adventure. Green wants dinner at six.

July 16th, 2025

Here’s a fun duo: the spontaneous yellow and the peace-loving green.

One wants freedom. The other wants routine.

One says, “Let’s try that new tapas place with the flamenco show and the mystery menu!”
The other googled the menu two days ago and silently vetoed it.

The yellow sees adventure. Energy. Experiences!
The green sees indigestion and noise.

And yet… they often end up together.
Because yellows bring the energy.
And greens bring the calm.
It works. Until Saturday night.

Then you get the fight that isn’t a fight:

“Let’s do something fun!”
“Like what?”
“I don’t know, something spontaneous!”
“Okay… but where? What time? Who’s coming?”
“Ugh. You ruin everything.”

Sound familiar? Maybe, maybe not.

Quick tip

If you’re yellow – don’t confuse questions with negativity. Wanting some information don’t kill joy. To feel safe greens ask questions as they not really like too big surprises.

If you’re green – saying “no” doesn’t have to be passive. Instead just say what you do want. Take responsibility for your own needs and say, “I’d love to come! Just a couple of things before we book …”

A colourful moment

One green guy told me he once printed a “suggested spontaneity menu” for his yellow wife.
Options included:

  • “Surprise museum visit (pre-booked)”
  • “Unplanned picnic (with pre-packed food)”
  • “Spontaneous walk (route mapped out)”

She loved it.
He survived it.
Marriage: saved.

See you next Wednesday.
//Thomas

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