“You’re not difficult. You’re just … Red.”
Let’s talk about conflict. Not the big dramatic kind, just the annoying everyday tension we all sense but can’t really see.
The teammate who always “forgets” your email. The partner who says you’re too intense. The neighbour who interprets “Can we talk?” as an intimidation.
Sometimes, we think: What’s wrong with these people?
Other times, we think: What’s wrong with me?
But often the answer is simpler: it’s not a personality clash. It’s a colour clash.
A Red person values speed, clarity, action. A Green person values harmony, calm, stability. Put them in a room together without awareness and sparks will fly. Reds interrupt. Greens retreat. Reds demand decisions. Greens dream of peace.
No one of these two is wrong. They’re just seeing the world through different lenses. You knew that already. But ow do you practice this in your daily life?
Quick tip
Before your next tricky conversation, ask yourself: What colour/colours am I dealing with here? And more importantly: Am I speaking their language – or just mine?
Even one tiny little seemingly pointless adjustment … can change the entire tone. And move an important conversation forward.
A colourful moment
A Green manager once told me his Red boss made him feel “like a disappointment just for thinking before answering.”
The boss thought silence meant uncertainty. The manager just needed a second to breathe.
Once they figured this out, the tension dropped.
It wasn’t personal. It was colour-coded.
See you next Wednesday.
//Thomas
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